Saturday, May 12, 2012

One Less Choice... (regret/ debate over/ worry about/ wish to change).

As mothers, we are subtly telling ourselves every day to achieve perfection. Everywhere we turn, someone somewhere seems to be doing so much more, so much better. We wonder how we are going to do it all. Kids, what to cook (and should it be organic and healthy or can I just whip up junk today?), a beautiful yard, a neat and orderly home, a great career, regularly checked off to-do lists. And we learn we cannot do it all. That we have to choose. To prioritize. And then we feel we should have done it differently instead. How do we know what to choose?

Choices are guided by feelings and thought. The whole head over the heart debacle. Once in a rare while, your head and your heart speak in beautiful harmony. You just know you are doing the right thing at the right time. But too often you feel torn, you aren't sure if you should choose this over that.

Some things luckily, happen in automatic mode. Like buying groceries. Do it long enough and you know which vegetable to put in your cart. Red or yellow onions or both for example. And if you just don't feel like kale chips, you know that you are not going to regret not buying that kale. If only everything were so simple.

Life's all about choices isn't it? I enjoy driving because I enjoy being in control. But I also know I enjoy it because so often, I am fortunate enough to have a cute little Garmin Nuvi telling me how to get to where I want to go. Perhaps 30 years from now, if someone didn't make a choice to destroy the world, people would have a micro-GPSes embedded in their heads, telling them exactly what to do and when and how. Perhaps feeling will have less to do with choosing and we would be so much more at peace with ourselves and one another. I sure hope so because 30 years from now my child will be my age. I want him to be empowered by his choices, never disheartened.

One less choice to regret. To worry about. That's what I want for every mother for Mother's Day. You deserve one day to stop worrying. Take it. Celebrate your choice. You did the best you could at that time. Learn from it. Embrace it. Act if it is not the choice you want now but don't let yourself be pulled every which way anymore. At least for this one day.

Happy Mother's Day, my dear reader.


  1. Happy Mother's Day!! I hope you have a wonderful day with your family.

  2. {{HUGS}} my dear friend. Happy Mother's Day!

  3. Inspiring and beautiful words. Dear Suji, Happy Mother's Day.

  4. Thank you dear friends. I had a great one and hope you did too!


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